TIPS022: The Past with Benjamin Tyler

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TIPS022: The Past with Benjamin Tyler

Benjamin Tyler is a transformational speaker and creator of Unleash Yourselfā€”a program that has changed the lives of people across the world to stand in their potential. He believes that the path to living a fulfilled life is found through the meaning you derive from the work you do, relationships you build with others, and the relationship with oneā€™s self.

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Time Stamped Notes

  • 3.28Even as a young person, 12 years old, Benjamin found the need to have a life of significanceā€”and sought significance through drugs, alcohol, sex and more
  • 5.25 After college, Benjamin finally realized that after hitting bottom, that his life that he loathed was his own fault and no one else was to blame… and it was there when he was able to start to build a life of true significance
  • 5.30 Benjamin says, ā€œIf you want the world to be what you want it to be, you need to change in it, not the other way aroundā€
  • 6.40 Benjamin now uses his story seeking significance and struggling to help entrepreneurs enroll clients and as a speaker inspiring audiences
  • 12.58 After being emotionally neglected by his mother as a child, Benjamin realized the root of his problem seeking significance was because he wanted to feel loved, and the drugs, alcohol etc. were a way to mask the pain of feeling unlovableā€”but he began to convince himself he was lovable, which helped him turn his life around
  • 14.19 Benjamin lives by Jim Rohnā€™s adage; you are the sum total of the 5 people you spend the most time with
  • 14.42 Benjamin works to keep his fears in front of him because he believes what we fear most is what we want most in life
  • 17.02 Benjamin only told his mother how he felt about his childhood four years ago and in turn she shared her story with him about how she was raised and how she didnā€™t feel loved as a child
  • 22.30 When Benjamin started to actually love himself, he was able to get rid of a bad job, start his entrepreneurial journey, and to tap into authentic relationships with other people
  • 30.42 If someone made a movie of his life, Benjamin says Johnny Depp should play the title role, and a lion is his spirit animal (find out more fun facts about Benjamin in the Quick Fire Round)

Key Points

  1. People often make decisions driven by their past, and sometimes when we feel harmed by another person it is unintentional and that person is only doing what they know how to do (e.g. loving the way they were loved, speaking the way they were spoken to in the past)
  2. There are two sides to every coinā€”significance, drinking alcohol, our relationships and moreā€”and itā€™s up to each of us to harness the side of the coin thatā€™s healthiest for us to live a good life
  3. We canā€™t expect to love and be loved until we learn to love ourselves

Resources or Websites Mentioned and on Instagram @benjamintyler

Benjamin wrote a story for The iā€™Mpossible Projectā€”Volume 2: Changing Minds, Breaking Stigma, Achieving the Impossible ā€“